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Hi Oletha,
I was very pleased to be able to hear your presentation at the Annual Conference last year. At that time, T hought you indicated that you would be open to speaking with attendees. I have tried to contact you, but do not think you have responded. I am interested in speaking with my church to establish a reconciliation program and would appreciate getting your insights. i
Hi Oletha,
I was very pleased to be able to hear your presentation at the Annual Conference last year. At that time, T hought you indicated that you would be open to speaking with attendees. I have tried to contact you, but do not think you have responded. I am interested in speaking with my church to establish a reconciliation program and would appreciate getting your insights. i
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1/22/25, 2:09 PM
June Scarborough-Appell
1/22/25, 2:09 PM
Hi John,
I am wondering if there is information or resources for when your party is in conflict with a person who is NOT a Christian and the non-Christian has hurt your party but when confronted the non-Christian doesn’t think what they have done is wrong and isn’t willing to confess their sins. Are there resources for how to help my party move through that?
Or
There may be a time when it may not be appropriate to even bring up the hurt to the other person but you need to forgive them to move on. (The other person hasn’t confessed to you, but looking to forgive them to move on and not hold bitterness etc.)
I am sure I have read or been taught this before and have put it into practice in my life… but I can’t seem to find the information. (And have heard conflicting information about whether or not you can forgive someone who is unrepentant.) Would you, please, be able to direct me to some information?
I can do my own Bible sleuthing and have some Bible verses that come to mind but wondering if there is a resource that can help (I learned my re-inventing the wheel lesson with the homework assignment)?
Thank you,
Nicole
Hi John,
I am wondering if there is information or resources for when your party is in conflict with a person who is NOT a Christian and the non-Christian has hurt your party but when confronted the non-Christian doesn’t think what they have done is wrong and isn’t willing to confess their sins. Are there resources for how to help my party move through that?
Or
There may be a time when it may not be appropriate to even bring up the hurt to the other person but you need to forgive them to move on. (The other person hasn’t confessed to you, but looking to forgive them to move on and not hold bitterness etc.)
I am sure I have read or been taught this before and have put it into practice in my life… but I can’t seem to find the information. (And have heard conflicting information about whether or not you can forgive someone who is unrepentant.) Would you, please, be able to direct me to some information?
I can do my own Bible sleuthing and have some Bible verses that come to mind but wondering if there is a resource that can help (I learned my re-inventing the wheel lesson with the homework assignment)?
Thank you,
Nicole
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1/29/25, 4:43 AM
Nicole Colban
1/29/25, 4:43 AM
Hi Nicole,
Good question. Yes, the short answer is that we treat the non-Christian as an image bearer of God, even in their unbelief. There may be situations where it is best to overlook the hurt. In order to determine when it is appropriate to overlook we ask ourselves a few questions:
1. Is the situation bringing shame on the name of Christ or his church?
2. Has it seriously damaged the relationship?
3. Is anyone getting hurt?
If you answer yes to any of those questions, you are in a situation where it is not appropriate to overlook. If you answer no to all of those questions, you may want to consider overlooking.
Does this help? If you'd like to discuss this further, consider making an appointment with one of us at links available on our staff page:
https://www.aorhope.org/our-staff
Please let me know if I have misunderstood or otherwise "missed"!
Blessings,
John
Hi Nicole,
Good question. Yes, the short answer is that we treat the non-Christian as an image bearer of God, even in their unbelief. There may be situations where it is best to overlook the hurt. In order to determine when it is appropriate to overlook we ask ourselves a few questions:
1. Is the situation bringing shame on the name of Christ or his church?
2. Has it seriously damaged the relationship?
3. Is anyone getting hurt?
If you answer yes to any of those questions, you are in a situation where it is not appropriate to overlook. If you answer no to all of those questions, you may want to consider overlooking.
Does this help? If you'd like to discuss this further, consider making an appointment with one of us at links available on our staff page:
https://www.aorhope.org/our-staff
Please let me know if I have misunderstood or otherwise "missed"!
Blessings,
John
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1/29/25, 5:45 PM
John Aden Long
1/29/25, 5:45 PM
Hi Dwight, I cannot find any homework or intake forms for the parties in my practicum group. I hope they can see mine. Have they completed that work?
Hi Dwight, I cannot find any homework or intake forms for the parties in my practicum group. I hope they can see mine. Have they completed that work?
You shared on:
2/3/25, 9:43 PM
Fraser Coltman
2/3/25, 9:43 PM
Hi Fraser, we had a couple of people sign up at the last minute which throws off the practicum assignments. I bet that's what you're running into
Hi Fraser, we had a couple of people sign up at the last minute which throws off the practicum assignments. I bet that's what you're running into
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2/3/25, 10:35 PM
Dwight Schettler
2/3/25, 10:35 PM
Yes, I think you are right. I guess we will just do our best
Yes, I think you are right. I guess we will just do our best
You shared on:
2/3/25, 10:37 PM
Fraser Coltman
2/3/25, 10:37 PM