What does conflict reveal about my heart?
Conflict Resolution vs Reconciliation - Lesson 2 - Repent Before God, Question 3, p. 28
In a workplace conflict where a worker's request for time off was callously declined, she takes 2 hours during work to send texts to co-workers complaining about her boss and calling her boss names. It is crucial to examine the actions and attitudes through the lens of the First Commandment and other biblical mandates. The First Commandment, "You shall have no other gods before me" (Exodus 20:3), calls us to prioritize God above all else. Both the employee and the boss in this scenario fell short of this commandment through their actions and demands.
The worker, instead of addressing her concerns directly with her boss, chose to flee the issue and subsequently attacked through sinful complaints and name-calling. By doing so, she placed her grievances and emotional reactions above the godly principle of resolving conflicts in a spirit of love and understanding. This action reveals a heart that is not fully submitted to God, as she sought personal vindication rather than seeking peace and reconciliation, which are fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).
Furthermore, the boss, by denying the time-off request without a compassionate dialogue, may have failed to exhibit the love and care that Jesus instructs us to show our neighbors (Mark 12:31). This lack of empathy and understanding can lead to strife and resentment, violating the commandment to love others as oneself.
Beyond the First Commandment, the worker's action of spreading harmful gossip and calling her boss names violates the Eighth Commandment, "You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor" (Exodus 20:16). Gossip and slander are destructive and go against the call to speak truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). Additionally, the anger and malice in her heart might breach the Fifth Commandment, "You shall not murder" (Exodus 20:13), as Jesus expands this to include harboring hatred (Matthew 5:21-22).
Despite these broken commandments, it is essential to remember the forgiveness available through Jesus Christ. 1 John 1:9 assures us, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Both parties can find restoration in Christ, committing to resolve conflicts in a manner that honors God and reflects His love and grace.
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