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The Difference Between Discipline and Retaliation

Writer: Dwight SchettlerDwight Schettler

What are the Christian’s responsibilities in bringing correction?

Conflict Resolution vs Reconciliation - Lesson 6, Restore with Gentleness, Question 22, p. 90


Discipline and retaliation are two concepts often confused, yet Hebrews 12:5-6 offers a clear distinction that is rooted in a profound understanding of divine love and justice. The passage reads: “And have you completely forgotten this word of encouragement that addresses you as a father addresses his son? It says, ‘My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.’”


At the heart of this scripture is the notion that discipline is an act of love. It is meant for correction, growth, and the betterment of one's character. When the Lord disciplines, it is akin to a parent guiding their child, teaching them right from wrong, and helping them develop into a person who embodies virtues and values. Discipline serves as a transformative tool, nurturing individuals to align their lives with biblical principles and to live in accordance with God’s will. See: Balancing Mercy and Consequences: Discipline.


Retaliation, on the other hand, is driven by a desire for revenge and punishment. It is reactive and often born out of anger or resentment. Unlike discipline, retaliation does not aim to improve or guide the individual being punished. Instead, it seeks to inflict harm or settle scores. Retaliation lacks the nurturing and corrective essence found in discipline and does not foster personal growth or spiritual maturity. See: What Role Should Retaliation Play in Restoration?


Hebrews 12:5-6 underscores that the Lord’s discipline should not be taken lightly nor should it be a cause for despair. It is a sign of divine acceptance and love, indicating that one is being shaped and molded for a higher purpose. When the Lord disciplines, it is a testament to His commitment to our development and salvation. See: Who Am I in Christ? Adopted into His Family, and Changed from an Enemy to an Heir.


Understanding the difference between discipline and retaliation as illustrated in Hebrews 12:5-6 is crucial for comprehending the nature of God's correction. The scripture reassures believers that they are being disciplined not out of malice, but out of a deep, abiding love that seeks to lead them toward righteousness and eternal life. Embracing this distinction can transform one's perspective on challenges and hardships, recognizing them as opportunities for growth and divine instruction, rather than acts of vengeance or retaliation.


 

This blog series is adapted from Conflict Resolution vs Reconciliation. You can experience this teaching in several ways:

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